1. Smile
You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are a friendly and
fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for
the first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and comfortable
around women. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if
you ever get an Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her
a big smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people
smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a
cheesy, fake smile ;)
2. Eye contact
As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It
makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all
your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonder why her womanly powers don’t work
with you and she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!
When talking to her, try to maintain eye contact. Not too much because it can be
intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are
talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be
natural but if you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact,
make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections
within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be
some truth to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just
staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.
Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.
3. Upright posture
Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with straight,
upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good
posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind).
It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for
your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.
Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.
4. Gesticulate with open palms
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I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in
MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women –
however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and nonverbal
techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!
Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that
puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might
be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep
your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.
It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling
the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are
being straight with her, is important.
This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.
